I’ve watched the North Carolina tirade of hateful bathroom laws in absolute horror. Now a town n Alabama has passed the same stupid law. And you may be thinking it doesn’t matter to you, because a. North Carolina is so far away b. No one had ever even heard of Oxford AL much less gone there on purpose or c. Your not trans and no one you know is trans.
And you’re right, but that doesn’t make what they are doing right.
I do have friends and loved ones in NC and my child visits Oxford AL when he goes up to visit his grandfather near there. I do have trans people in my life who already have to deal with discrimination and choosing between being assaulted in the men’s room or screamed at in the ladies room. I know female identified women with facial hair who get strange looks and male identified men who are feminine in nature and NEITHER ONE OF THEM ARE SAFE. Because of this. Because we let this happen. Because stupid lawmakers and bigots are too busy worrying about who is going in to what bathroom to really worry about the people actually assaulting women & children.
And more than that, I have a gender non-conforming child that I now have to worry about being safe in the bathroom, in the dressing room, in locker rooms. Not because of someone trans being in there, I don’t worry about that at all and I never will…but because some hate filled bigot might decide to judge for themselves where my child belongs and take it upon themselves to deal with it. They’ve made it unsafe for my children because he or she may not fit the mold of what YOU think a girl or boy should look like. They’ve made my child have to question his or her safety in a bathroom when all they want to do is pee. They’ve made a CHILD choose to hold it all day than face the wrath of adults who should fucking know better. #Illgowithyou if you need to go. And now Ill be escorting my kid to bathroom to protect them from YOU.
Oh and may I remind you that it wasn’t that long ago when AL, NC and all the rest of these backwards ass states had unisex bathrooms?